My boyfriend of two and a half years just got his children half the time(toddlers). So they are living with us one week and then the other week with their mother. Anyways, we've had some rough bumps during this journey. It seems like we are on two separate parenting tracks, if his kids misbehave he rarely takes action. He just says don't do it again, or he laughs about it so they think it's okay. Then there's me that will put them in time out. He's often snuck behind my back to help them out, meaning.. one time at dinner we had asked them to finish their dinner before playing and having an after meal snack, they complained and didn't want to. He then went in the kitchen when I wasn't in there and decided to tell one of them to finish the one piece and he tossed the others in the garbage and I busted him and said what are you doing. He made up a quick fib but he's a bad liar so I said what's the in the garbage and then he did admit to tossing it out after I said NO. Another time was that we don't give them liquids an hour before bed because they pee the bed often and I read that's a start on stopping pee accidents. They kids know this rule. Anywho, he was upstairs reading them a book to bed and one of them legit runs past him to go to the washroom to fill up an water bottle not sure how it got there but anyways filled it up and drank water I heard the tap running from upstairs and I look up the stairs and his kid is drinking water after we established that rule together as a family??? I said wtf, you just let her do that and his excuse was "she ran right past me, I didn't even see her cause I was reading a book" um okay. He's been driving me absolutely NUTS. He says he'll change but he hasn't. He can't be going behind my back and we have to be on the same page because they will think I'm the worst mean person ever and he's okay? I hate this. I'm so drained. Why am I the only one being the parent who disciplines. Also I should add that they do love me maybe a bit too much I'm the one they go to for EVERYTHING. I'm tired. He needs to step up. Help!!!!!