Dealing with families opinions at Xmas time
I wanted to get other posters tips on dealing with families opinions on their blended family situation.
So I have previously posted about ongoing issues with my 3 SKs, predominantly SS17 who lives full time. I also have a 4 month old.
I am not going to sugar coat this post and yes, some of it may seem mean but I also know that a lot of others on this forum may feel similar or do similar things to me.
i don't like SS17 and do not encourage a relationship with my child, his half sibling. SDs live with BM many miles away so are not actively involved either.
At this point in time I do not see any harm in doing so with SS. I don't need help changing nappies, I don't need you to hold him so I can clean the house, I don't need you to settle him. I don't need help. I can play with him and help his development or his dad can.
SS works full time so is gone before we get up in the morning and is home late in the arvo when I am trying to feed, settle bub for the evening so I can enjoy some quiet time with my partner. This has been the same since bub was born. He is also not home most weekends so please explain to me where I am supposed to fit in his bonding with his half sibling ??? Sometimes bub may be asleep on me and he will just stand there staring at bub - blergh. I get up and leave the room.
for people who also have a bio and SK who they do not like around the bio or may not encourage relationship, how do you handle opinions from in-laws, aunties, uncles, friends on the situation when it is very hard to understand until you live it?
I always feel like I need to go against what I believe and feel to make everyone else happy with the norm instead of standing my ground. Like give in and let SS hang out with bub but he has done some pretty nasty things to our household so why should I reward that?? Why should I use my child as the olive branch? My child is not a pawn.
thank god it is just bub, partner and I for Xmas but I am still gonna cop shit when they ask how SS17 is with bub