This could get long, so my apologies in advance-
We have 2 kids living with us pretty much full time (1 step, 1 bio) and they seem to think that they are being treated as slaves, especially SD13.
First of all, they are PAID for anything they do that doesn't involve picking up after themselves. (They are not paid for cleaning up their own junk or their personal laundry.) Chores assigned are mostly limited to helping with dishes, tidying one small bathroom, occasionally sweeping, crushing aluminum cans, or taking out trash. That's it. Let me also add that we are a family of 4 with a dishwasher, dinner is usually a one-pan meal, and everyone busses their own plates, so dishes is really washing a pan or two and running and unloading dishwasher.
I am able to do any and all chores within 5-10 minutes tops. The complaining and arguing takes longer than anything else.
They also seem to think that they shouldn't have to do anything WITHOUT pay. If you ask them to do something simply to help out, they typically refuse.
I don't know what to do with this, because my parents would never have stood for it. When I was 13, I was cooking meals, babysitting my 4 younger siblings, and doing most of the family's laundry in addition to my schoolwork and dishes and "normal" chores. I didn't get to eat if I didn't pull my weight. (I realize this is not an option- simply stating what my parents did)I was also expected to do this for free to benefit the family. I did not receive a regular allowance. Maybe once a month, if I had done everything that I was supposed to, dad would give me a $10 or 20 bill on his payday, IF they had it to spare.
The thing that irritates me the most is that they don't want to pitch in or even try to earn their own money, but every time there is an activity or a fee to be paid or something to be bought, they expect us to just fork over the cash. "IT'S ONLY $60!!!" Really, are you kidding me?? (Or they "threaten" to just go ask the O.P.)
Or are we just a-holes to expect our kids to do anything?
We can't even take their electronics away because they claim to need them "for schoolwork". SD also claims that it is impossible for her to complete homework and do her one chore between the hours of 3pm and 9:30 pm and that we are ridiculous for not letting her keep her laptop in her room all night to "finish" (Sidenote, she was caught both playing computer games and talking on her cell phone during "homework" time, so we are pretty sure that time management is her issue)
I am getting tired of doing everyone else's work so that my home doesn't turn into a sh%$ hole, and turning out my pockets to hand out $ left and right. I did truly believe that what we gave them to do was age appropriate and fair.