Advice:11yo SD has violent thoughts towards new babies in the house
I need some advice/support/reassurance about my SD's thoughts towards any babies her dad and I might have. About a year ago, while at a friend's house, my SD had been going on about how awful babies were and the mother of her friend asked her how she would feel about my husband and me having a baby. Her response was repeated to us by the mother as "I would smother it with a pillow". Needless to say, her friends mother banned my SD from visiting. Both my husband and I talked to my SD about what she said but she could giv neither of us a valid reason as to WHY she said it. We enrolled her in therapy however, the goal of those seasons turned more towards helping her adjust to changes and deal with the crap treatment from her bio mom. Therapy never explored the statement about killing a baby and with her therapist retiring, we are in a position of having to find a new one. In the meantime, I have identified strong indicators that would lead me to verify her with ASD were she a student at my school, and so our search for a therapist is more difficult as I want someone who is cabable of assessing for ASD and so my SD has not had a session in quite some time.
Through all this, I had forgotten about the baby comment but it now plagues me as my husband and I are talking about having our own kids soon. I am suddenly scared of what it means to my future children to the point where I don't want kids yet. The thing is, my expertise is with teenagers. I get them and how their brains work; little kids and tweens are foreign to me and I really don't know if what my SD said is typical of SD's in her position or not? Am I unecessarily worrying or am I right to be secretly thinking about putting off kids until she leaves home?