Living in *ell! Losing my mind bc of crazy BM
My husband's ex is psychotic. She lied about taking birth control to get pregnant in hopes of saving the relationship. She has had custody of his daughter since day 1 and uses her as a pawn. I began dating him when his daughter was 2- she is now 7. In the past BM has done things like try to get my husband falsely arrested, cyber-stalked me, wrote my family and friends saying I was a "home-wrecking whore", told her daughter not to talk to me, refused visitation, wrote "WHORE" on my car, tried to instigate physical fights, etc.
She claims to be disabled but has no problem sleeping around. Her roomate told us she woke up to find her out in the parking lot having sex with some man in a car while SD was asleep! She denied it of course. She lives off of her random boyfriends and anyone she can dupe into feeling sorry for her. She is classic anti-social personality disorder!
Her new thing is pretending SD is sick and asking for money for "meds" or "co-pays". She has taken her to the dr so many times she ran out of state medical ins. Now she is having the drs offices send us the bills, and trying to get her cs raised bc SD is "disabled" too. We know she is lying bc she has said things like "there is goo coming from her eye" and "She has a rash"- then when we pick her up that same day there is nothing wrong with her.
I had to change my phone # because of her harassment, and she won't stop. She calls my DH all hours of the night, saying something is wrong with SD, and she throws herself at him when he tries to visit. When he turns her down, she flips out at him! SD now hates me and her father and doesn't seem to want anything to do with us, but she is obviously suffering psychological damage- she is doing terribly in school and having behavioral issues. I COULD GO ON FOREVER THERE IS JUST SO MUCH CRAP. Everytime something happens she tries to use that to get attention from him and rekindle their relationship- it makes him sick he has told her to stop but she won't. It got so bad that he didn't see his daughter for months at a time bc he didn't want to be sexually harassed!
I am so stressed now that I feel like moving across the country and changing our numbers just so we don't have to deal with it! I know that sounds horrible but we have been to court so many times and told we have no proof to get custody. We are going back in July- and I am done. Her sister is a lawyer who helps her out- we can't afford 30,000- 50,000 to get a lawyer! I don't even want to go because it is so stressful and I am taking accelerated summer courses in college and I can't deal with it.
What can I do? I get no say but have to deal with the drama! It's driving me crazy!