BM - Crazy as a sh*thouse rat
I have to say that BM has never been diagnosed with a mental illness, to my knowledge. However, her behavior since I've known her, and the stories DH relates, makes it very clear that she is suffering from some untreated issues.
1. BM has no education (highschool dropout) but claims to have a doctorate in seminary. She was ordained online, and now presents herself as a "minister", "reverend", etc. She has perfected this online persona of suffering martyrdom and wants people to believe that she is nothing but perfectly trustworthy, decent and wise. She is none of these things.
2. BM has abandoned SS. Does not call, pay CS, acknowledge birthdays without prompting, etc. She claims that we keep her from him, and that we "coach" him to ask her questions about why she won't allow him to visit her. We have years of emails and phone records that completely disprove all of this, but she maintains her position even in the face of written evidence.
3. BM lived with a really nasty man for years who would emotionally abuse SS and videotape it, then post videos online. SS would be huddled on the floor while BM's boyfriend tried to get him to say that he had been abused by us. This same boyfriend, told DH and I (when our daughter was born) that we should "go home and watch our retard die". Our daughter is blind, developmentally delayed, and has several medical issues. Lovely man, really.
4. Lies, lies, lies. About everything and anything. Went around telling people that she'd spent thousands of dollars on the divorce, and that it had dragged on for years. The truth is, DH filed & paid for everything while BM had a free attorney through legal aid. The divorce was finalized in less than a year, and BM didn't pay a dime. Court records easily proved this.
There's so much more, but I wanted to get some of it OUT so I don't have to focus on the lies BM tells to make people feel sorry for her. Ugh.