Thank you guys for your responses. Being a step parent has probably been the biggest dissapointment of my life so far. I went in with such high hopes since my step dad was such a huge part of my life, and I jave finally come to accept that my step daughter and I are not close, and will not be close for a very long time. so much damage has happened over the last 2 years and its just so hard. I dont know how to not take things personally. she lies all the time. and I really cant stand that. But I have been trying to disengage and its going better than it has been in the past, thats for sure. So i have some hope that we'll all at least get to a point where things are more stable and we arent all stressed out and pissed off all the time.
Step parenting is the hardest thing ever. I dont hold out hope for the time when there isnt stress and disharmony in my home whilst I am in this relationship.
I am a big time planner - which also makes me be controlling. But I also know what I can control. Things (or people) that I cannot change when they need changing to be acceptable to me I tend to just dismiss. When I decided that ss34 was worthless I just removed him from my life 100%. I have zero control over him so I now have zero interaction with him as his actions are so unacceptable.
Yes.
Yes.
As someone who is controlling because I work in the childcare
As someone who is controlling because I work in the childcare field and can't stand to see poor parenting... Yes. Yes it is.
Thank you guys for your
Thank you guys for your responses. Being a step parent has probably been the biggest dissapointment of my life so far. I went in with such high hopes since my step dad was such a huge part of my life, and I jave finally come to accept that my step daughter and I are not close, and will not be close for a very long time. so much damage has happened over the last 2 years and its just so hard. I dont know how to not take things personally. she lies all the time. and I really cant stand that. But I have been trying to disengage and its going better than it has been in the past, thats for sure. So i have some hope that we'll all at least get to a point where things are more stable and we arent all stressed out and pissed off all the time.
I feel the same
Step parenting is the hardest thing ever. I dont hold out hope for the time when there isnt stress and disharmony in my home whilst I am in this relationship.
I am a big time planner -
I am a big time planner - which also makes me be controlling. But I also know what I can control. Things (or people) that I cannot change when they need changing to be acceptable to me I tend to just dismiss. When I decided that ss34 was worthless I just removed him from my life 100%. I have zero control over him so I now have zero interaction with him as his actions are so unacceptable.