Hi all,

So little back story, I have a soon to be SS 10 who has some disabilities that is just driving me nuts lately! He is a lot to handle, like a lot! The boy can wear anyone out within a few hours let me tell you. Thankfully my finance is good with him and I'm an so thankful we only have EOWE, but today is the day he is scheduled to visit us for 4 days because of the stupid holiday and today after coming home from a long day at work he is the last thing I want to deal with. He's not a bad kid, just super annoying and talks a lot! I have always had a lot of patience but lately I just don't and I can't figure out why. I've been letting his  dad do everything when  he's here from feeding him to taking him out to do boy things and now my fiance is starting to have his feelings hurt. For the last 2 months I've slowly started to disengage when he's over, I go out with my sisters or friends for a few hours and then come home and do my own thing like laundry and clean or just run errands. My fiance has finally asked last weekend why I'm not around when SS is over and I just said I'm sorry that I'm just busy and have a go-go kind of schedule lately. I want to bring it up and make him aware of what I'm doing but I know it's going to cause a fight. I know it's his son and I chose to be in this relationship and I don't plan on leaving but how can I ease the topic or the situation? Last night he expressed his sadness at me not being around when SS is over and that he wants to do things together with his son because we're his 2 favorite people and boy I felt like an asshole! Has anyone ever had a partner who fought back to the disengaging, and how did your relationship survive? I say that because if I did bring it up I know deep down it would be a fight and cause a lot of friction.  I'm at point where I want to bring it up but the other part of me what's to try building a tolerance or better relationship with his son for the sake of my fiances feelings. I need help, I'm stuck at the crossroads.