I've been at my wit's end!
Can anyone offer advice on disengaging when your ss lives with you? I feel like it's much more difficult especially because my husband expects me to be his son's mother! I just don't like his son. I've tried over the years, but it just doesn't work. I can't be fake. My DH expects me to treat ss the same as I treat our son together. My DH is really worried about custody because ss was crying to his aunt (he's been staying with them in Florida for the summer) that he wants to live with them or his biomom! He said that it's because I'm too hard on him! Someone needs to teach him responsibility! My DH wants me to change how I treat SS, so the only way I can think of is to not pay attention to his schoolwork or if he does chores and let him play video games whenever. It isn't a good example for our little guy, but it's all I can think of. I don't think my DH will be satisfied with it, but he can't expect a total 180! He has a custody case coming up again soon and he's worried about his son going with his biomom. He has fought hard for custody. Ugh!! so much stress!