Is it possible to Disengage from Husband, MIL, and SD without divorce?
I've been married almost 10 years. I have a SD17 , a SS14, and a BS6. My husband is a Disney dad. We have full custody of SS14. He has behavioral issues himself. SD17 started refusing to come to our house 5 years ago because my husband wouldn't get rid of me. SD17 is a narcissist, and only calls when she wants money, or when she wants to cause trouble. SD17 has been horrible to all of us. She is a thief and a liar. SD17 has tried repeatedly to make me leave. She has had help from MIL and Ex-Wife. MIL will sneak around and help SD17 screw me over, then tell me how much she loves me to my face. MIL thinks SD17 does no wrong. MIL has nothing to do with SS14 or BS6. MIL has always claimed to hate the ex-wife but they are just alike. MIL is very manipulative. She has a "health emergency" anytime something doesn't go her way.
Lately, Husband has been acting odd whenever he brings MIL, SD17, and Ex-Wife up. He told me Ex-Wife didn't even call SS14 on Mother's Day. He told me that he did talk to MIL and she is furious at SD17, and told him she would never be anything but trouble, and that they weren't speaking. He told me he hasn't heard a word from SD17.
This week, he slipped up and told me ex-wife did call on Mother's Day. I don't like the woman, but I understand talking to your child on Mother's Day. Why did he lie about it? I found out that MIL was never mad at SD17. I checked out their pages on Facebook, and they've been posting to each other on there constantly. I don't see where they stopped talking at any point, or even acted mad at each other. I also found out that my husband called SD17 this week and talked to her for awhile on the phone. I understand that he wants to talk to his child. I've never given him grief for talking to his child. I've tried to get him to go do things with her without me--just so he could spend some time with her. It's not talking to SD17 that has me upset. I just don't understand why he lied about it? It bothers me that these people have all tried to break up my marriage repeatedly. They have done nothing except cause stress and grief--and now he is sneaking aroung and lying for them. I feel betrayed. I'm wondering what is going on that makes him feel like he has to sneak around and lie to me. He acts like nothing has changed. He doesn't know that I have found out. He knows something is bothering me but that's it. I'm afraid if I start talking about it, that I will get upset. I hate to get upset, because I start crying. I'm just tired of it all.
Is it possible to disengage from my husband, MIL, SD17, and the Ex-Wife without a divorce?