I just can't believe it
My 17 y/o step son stole my engagement ring 5 months ago when we announced our save the dates to the wedding. (No proof, just loads of circumstantial clues) It just appeared in a box of allergy medication on my nightstand two weeks after the wedding. I have been disengaging since my initial confrontation about the ring where I asked if he had “seen it” not if he had “taken it” and he acted very suspiciously.
I thought for sure my husband would blame me for the new appearance but now it seems he sees this for what it is. I don’t blame him for not wanting to acknowledge his son would be capable of this, I’m personally just happy he didn’t pawn it or throw it out in the trash.
My husband feels caught in the middle and hurt his son would lie. I still think there’s a small part of him that thinks I’m some how conspiring but I’m just trying to be kind, forgiving and honest. I’m not even mad now that this happened, I just want some acknowledgement and resolution. I’m not expecting any apologies.
My husband would rather we pretend to be happy and sweep this under the rug but I just can’t keep living a lie. I’m not deliberately mean to his son but I am detaching without common pleasantries hoping that the discomfort will lead to a family intervention. I don’t know what else to do. I recognize my part in this, and I also know if his son doesn’t come to the table we can’t move past this or even address his needs.
I’m at a loss and happy to receive any feedback, positive, negative or simply honest. Please help!