I have to run away to stay sane
I know I am partial to my biokids but they just don't have certain behavioral issues stepkids have. DH is supportive but so blind to their issues and I don't feel it's fair he expects me to clean up the mess he and BM have made. I don't even want to discipline. I'm trying to disengage. He encourages me to discipline but I just don't want to! It stresses me out, I'm not their mom, and if he would have done a better job parenting earlier I wouldn't be so stressed out by their bad behavior. So I find I just need to leave. I will be gone most or all of the weekends they are here. It is just impossible to live with them. Why can't DH see this? I feel like he owes me an apology for having to put up with it and should actually discipline when they are doing bad behaviors. Lecturing them does nothing. Sure, go back to your phone or video game and play all day after doing unacceptable things! I refuse to feel guilty for hiding or running away from them anymore. I am guilty myself of thinking it would just get easier. I saw how his kids acted before we moved in and got married, so that's on me. But I never realized how miserable they would make me. I do try to see the positives in them, but can only take them in very, very small doses. Which brings up the point of wouldn't it be easier to not live together than disengage? I'm really struggling with this. Has anyone else made it work with a blended family to kind of do their own thing the majority of time?