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Doing the Christmas Hop!!

2Tired4Drama's picture

I'm really getting better at disengaging!  Today, I heard my SO's phone ring while he was in his man-cave and knew it was probably SD since he had already talked to his other family members. 

SD had sent him several personalized grandpa-type gifts as well as a small household appliance for the two of us,  (The household appliance thing is now her standard generic gift to "us" each year.  It's usually something we have already or have no need for.)

I knew my SO would probably try to get me to talk to her on the phone so I could thank her for her gift.  Nope, not doing it but I didn't want to be rude.  So I did a quick holiday hop into the bathroom and took a nice, long leisurely shower.  By the time I got out phone call was over!  

SO said something about how SD asked to talk to me but then he saw I was in shower.  Oh well, too bad so sad.  As far as I'm concerned it was just another step on the disengagement stairway.  



Rags's picture

Well played.   Shower is a perfect avoidance activity when toxic adult Skids call.

Great idea.

Stepmom2020's picture

I'm so tired of buying gifts or checks and not only NOT getting a thank you, but no acknowledgement. This Christmas I sent some "stuff" (because they said they weren't coming). I asked if they got it and they said "yeah". Then they said they were coming after all....husband was going to go out and buy stuff for them to open, I said I'd do it (I could control the price). They show up long enough to open presents (30 minutes) and husband had to beg them to stay to eat. They never bring presents or help clean up. I am disengaging. I told my husband he was in charge of their gifts from here out, not my circus anymore. Love this site.