Does anyone else’s DH expect more engagement?
I feel like DH is watching me around stepkids. I'm polite but especially with his middle son, I just don't want to talk to him more than I have to. I know that sounds bad but I have reasons for really not being his biggest fan, I have no interest in making small talk because he just goes on about something I don't care about. Maybe I should be less selfish and just suck it up but it is draining me when I try to engage with him. He is in the gifted program and knows he is smart but has zero social skills. At times if we are all together and talking I will ask him questions or comment on what he said but otherwise I really just don't feel like it. DH has said before I seem indifferent to his kids. Well I am mostly, I've tried before and either the above happens or he goes and tattles to BM on whatever he can even if it's not bad and she inserts herself. He also picks on the little kids and DH thinks he's the best thing since sliced bread. He once shoved a teammate during a game and DH didn't understand why that kids mom got so mad. I could go on. But it is hard for me to start fresh and forgive this kid as much as I wish I could, so I try to disengage and I know DH is not happy, then I worry about that and feel guilty. Any thoughts?