disengaging is tough.
not sure i'm doing this right. SD continues to be a spoiled, entitled, snotty brat toward me and everyone in our household. luckily i was able to take my two bio kids to my moms for ten days and SD only texted/facetimed a couple of times. DH claims that SD has been receiving counseling that might help her change. i made the mistake of trying to connect with SD through social media, picking her up from the bus and attempting to be closer. when she gets an inch she takes a thousand miles. she posts idiotic videos of herself lip syncing and squinting her eyes to appear that she is high on her social media accounts. i called her out on naming herself with 666 and she said 'yeah, i'm emo. i'm goth'. i'm like i don't know what the hell is wrong with this kid (13 yo). she talks crap on everyone and everyone knows this is the case with her but she is addicted to her phone, social media, and creating havoc everywhere she goes. i feel like i will have to go back to telling DH that i'm not available to pick her up and that he will either have to be present when she's at our house or he'll have to find another way. she always always every time manages to weasel her way back into good graces with me and then turn around and steal (this time my phone chargers multiple times and she says she had to borrow it of course) and call me a liar when DH calls her out on her unacceptable behaviors. DH was quick to have my back today so SD was put in her place pretty fast when she tried to say I had lied to him. she just won't quit being a toxic fool. she's such a narcissist and says that i have no life so i am obsessed with hers (eye roll). i'm doing better about walking away from the drama and not doing the emotional labor. i told SD today that i can't deal with her because she is so arrogant about doing whatever the heck she wants to do. it feels so petty and meaningless when she's here. i honestly have been counting down the seconds til she goes back to BM for years. even more so in the last six months cuz this kid is such a brat. i talked with DH this evening and he sent SD outside to pick up trash and he retrieved her phone. the phone is turning her into someone i could've never imagined. i've cared for her since she was two. i don't know what gives. i know i say it all the time. i just feel like i'm waiting to see what her final verdict is going to be. my SIL told me not to have false hope about SD changing. i do my best to protect my bio kids and shelter them from the demon child their half sister is. it just seems like she is putting some weird energy out into the universe with her social media and inviting some psycho predators to have their way. is this weird thinking? how the hell can i coexist with this girl for another 4-5 years like this? is there anything to look forward to except the day she doesn't live here any more? thanks. this group has been amazing.