Disengaging.... day one
So tomorrow SS13 will be back at our house. Tomorrow will also be the first day of me disengaging. I definitely have triggers when he is around- so I'm looking for support of what to do in these monents when taking this new approach of disengaging.
Its really three things that bother me time and time again...
1.When SS lurks around the house waiting for DH to occupy his time and/or acts as a couch jockey on his phone all day (still just waiting for DH).
2. When SS trying to be a mini adult and dominate his dad and I.
3. When he starts attention seeking (acting over the top obnoxious) when DD18 months is around (I don't want certain qualities influencing her).
In an effort to not be as reactive- I'd like to go into this weekend with a bit of a plan for myself. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should/could do in these moments to take good care of myself and DD? Any advice/recommedations would be appreciated. Me going to DH is out of the question becuase while DH sees SS's behavior- at times he chooses to ignore it saying "that's just normal for 13". DH and I definitely view thigns differently. His approach is not my approach- which is fine. Its not my job to tell him how to parent as this is the main reason I'm choosing to disengage. I would just feel better going into the weekend with some strategies for myself.