Only a couple of months since I disengaged from SD13. She has decided to live with BM full-time, which has been the case for a month or so now. TBH it's all been pretty stressful and even heartbreaking, trying to explain it to my younger kids. DH wants to take our toddler down to our son's practice tomorrow so SD can see them and I'm not comfortable about it because SD is not trustworthy. I'm sure DH will protect our youngest but there have been many times when SD tortured the younger siblings when no one was looking. SD has told everyone that I am the reason why she can't reside in our house anymore. Who cares, right? How should I perceive that?

Still struggling to find peace with the situation and wrestling with strange feelings I haven't experienced before. Things are a million times better in our house now that menace girl is gone but it's been an adjustment. Cared for her since she was one year old and now she's 'gone'. I know I did the right thing by disengaging and separating myself from all the drama but now I hear it from my friends how SD is posting shit on social media like I love my dad but I can never forgive him for choosing another family instead of me. She's talking smack on DH (like she does on everyone) and he was like 'i don't care' because I don't think he really does. So why do I care? I can't understand it. Thoughts?