DH demands that I play mom
I'm a child free stepmother to HF Autistic SS12. The child loves me to death but i hate him because he has damaged me both physically and emotionally.
For the first few years I was very involved. But HCBM, and autism... Well.. I can't even be in the room with SS anymore without my heart rate going thru the roof. I dont feel safe at all.
We almost have him full time now and DH gets extremely angry with me when I refuse to engage in parenting. He gets upset with me when I wont help build chore charts, ask SS to clean, babysit, pick up and drop off, coordinate play dates... You name it I don't want to do it. He doesnt understand that I don't possess unconditional love for SS.
How do I get thru to DH and make him understand why I'm not a selfish bitch? Am I a selfish bitch?