Step-Son making unreasonable demands.
My step-son for the last few years has been getting more and more out of control. He has stopped going to school and is smoking weed and other drugs. He states that his biological father has abused him in some way leading to the drug use and I have tried to get him help with therapy and psychiatrists but he is refusing any help there and wants only to get high. My wife has pretty much stopped trying to deal with him because of the stealing, lying and drug use and has left me to deal with him. She pretty much stays in our room or leaves to hang out with her friends so she doesn't have to deal with him. Lately he has requested to be put in foster care because I won't let him do whatever he wants. My wife at this point is upset with me because I won't back off. For me trying to get him help and require him to go to school and graduate high school doesn't seem to extreme. I stated if he doesn't go to class and stay on track with graduation and stop doing drugs I'm not paying for his cell phone nor allowing him to play his video games online. At this point I'm not sure what to do. I don't think backing off is going to help anything and only make me a prisoner in my own home. His aunt took him for a week and she sent him back to us because he was to much for her to handle. She wanted to take him for a few weeks to give us a break. I hate to say it but that week was so amazing for not just us as individual but as a couple. There has been so many problems that have erupted between us because of his behavior that just went away when he was gone. I do love him and he wasn't always like this but I just don't know what to do anymore. I did see there is this federal funded program called job corps that I believe might be a good option but it seems whatever I suggest is seen as just not loving him by both my wife and my step-son. I'm just so lost at what I should do.