Share your experiences
I'm very happy this forum was added. I hope that those of us who think co-parenting is important and are involved in trying to succeed in this arena can share our experiences here without the disdain for the idea that is prevelant in other forums.
I'm new to the step-parent world. My SO and I have been together for over a year. My job recently moved me across the country (luckily back to my home state). After 3 months and some rough patches, my SO was able to transfer her job here and she and her 3 children moved in with me. I had gotten to know her kids pretty well while I was dating her so it's not like I came into this blind. However, it has not been without it's challenges, some of them unforeseen. But we've lived together a little over a month and so far we are very happy.
She loves her kids very much as do I...and we are very much in love with each other. Our challenges have been in deciding how much of a father type role I should have. I wanted a bigger role that she wanted originally, but we have come to an agreement on that. I am involved in the rule making, delegating chores, watching them when mom is gone, picking them up from school when needed, homework time, etc. When they act up, I am able to get on to them, and deal out non-physical punishment (no spanking, just "go to your room", or "no xbox" type stuff...for now, mom is solely responsible for spanking if necessary).
Our challenges so far seem to be in where we differ on the approach we want to take. So I'm curious, those of you who do co-parent with your SO, what experiences have you had? What challenges have you worked through and how?