Hi everyone! New here and fairly new to being a stepmom.
I have 3 children. A 12 and 13 year old from a previous marriage and my Dh and I have 5 month old. Along with that Dh has full custody of his son who is 7.
Dh finally gained sole custody due to the mother getting the child taken from her twice due to drugs and abuse. He has been in his care for almost 2 years now.
The court asked DH earlier in thr year if mom could have visits. When they took the child the last time she was pushed in a corner and the court convinced her to relinquish all rights to the child. She did just that. Anyways, dh agreed to visits, supervised.
Since the Mom has been coming around again she has really been trying to cause issues between Dh and I. Of course we see what she is trying to do and it isn't cause any problems at all but I am afraid in time it will wear on both of us. She has made it very clear that she does not want me involved with her child in any way. That is really hard since he lives with me. I don't involve myself with his Dr visits, school conferences etc. But doing family activities, she expects her son not be involved!! I WILL NOT do that to this child. Dh has told her that I don't involve myself with important things like dr appointments, conferences at school etc. She doesn't believe him for what ever reason. Now she has this perception that she can come and go in my home when ever she wants. Dh and I put a stop to this but is still pushing to be able to come and hang out in my home. Dh
Thinks she is jealous amonst the fact she thinks I am trying to take her place.
For those that have been in situations like this or more experienced step parents, how do you handle this? Should i sit down and talk to her about this? Let it go or what? I just hate animosity and don't want drama.