Need Advice! Am I wrong?
I have two kids and see them every other weekend. I talked to my wife about my oldest teenage son coming over a few days past the weekend. I did not give her an exact date, but in my mind, it would be the next time I see him. This week she planned a surprise birthday party for her daughter, who is turning 16. She has invited several of her daughter's friends and her daughter's boyfriend. She told me she did not want my son to say longer than the weekend since her daughter's party is on Tuesday. She also has a son who lives with us is about my son's age and he will be present. I was very hurt that she did not want my son to be here because of her daughter's party. I could understand if it was an all-girls party, and no boys were allowed. I told her my son does not have to be involved and would probably be playing Xbox. We are all one family, and if the situation was reversed, I would want her child to be here. I feel that she is not treating all the kids fairly. I have communicated to her my feelings in the matter and is causing a big division. It's now not about this one situation but about a more significant issue of feeling my kids are not welcome. I need advice on if i'm wrong on feeling this way and how to handle this.