Need advice...
So my step daughters mom is recently single and the little one is having issues acting out and what not.... so my man wants to go up to visit his daughter which is a 3 hour drive and he's planning on staying at his ex's place because he can't afford a hotel.... (she slept with someone else which is why they broke .. up her and my man , so she's a bit scandalous I have to add) I am completely understanding that his daughter needs him but i am not okay with him staying there all weekend just the three of them... does this make me crazy, or un-reasonable.... it's not that I don't trust him but it just makes me feel uncomfortable and the thought of it makes me heart jump into my throat .... he keeps saying he's going to see his daughter that's it but obviously if he's at their hour they're all spending all day together and every meal and doing bed times with her together idk I don't like it... would it be completely crazy if me to pay for the hotel myself for him... I meen if he wants one on one time with his daughter then that's the best way and I would feel better knowing he's not with his ex and sleeping under the same roof all weekend ... HELP PLEASE I NEED ADVICE!!!
No way in hell would my DH
No way in hell would my DH stay overnight with his ex - I would throw a fit! and he wouldn't even want too. That is just uncalled for.
Why not just have BM meet
Why not just have BM meet halfway and the little girl can spend the weekend with you and 'your man' in your home? Each drive an hour and a half (Dad can pay for BM's gas if necessary) Friday and than again on Sunday. The little girl gets to spend some time with Daddy (getting her mind off whatever is happening at BM's) , BM gets a break to deal with her issues and you get peace of mind.
Because seriously, paying for a hotel won't give you peace of mind. Regardless of where he sleeps he will still be playing 'happy family' with BM all weekend.
If my DH even asked to stay
If my DH even asked to stay at BM's house, we'd be in marriage counseling. That crosses so many boundaries. There is no way in hell I would ever agree to it. Of course, my DH won't even step insode the door of BM's hovel so I have nothing to worry about. If your SO wants to visit his daughter, then he needs to wait until he has enough money to spring for a hotel room. If his daughter is having problems adjusting to the situation, then how is him playing happy family with BM going to help her adjust? It would be better for him to get some one on one time with her.
How would your SO feel about you spending a couple of nights with your ex? If he'd have a problem with it, then he needs to respect that you are similarly uncomfortable with him doing the same.
This is a hell no! IMHO of
This is a hell no! IMHO of course.
That your DH is even considering this would have him on the curb in my world.
Good luck.
The fact that he even sees
The fact that he even sees this as an option would make me doubt him and take away so much trust. This is crossing serious boundaries.
She is single now, come stay here... be with OUR daughter. WE need to be a family for her. WE should be together for the sake of her. Blah, blah, blah.