Fix or move out
Where do I start?
My wife and I have been married for 2 years. She has a daughter who is 8 and I have a son now 11 and now we have a daughter 7 months old. My wife is the love of my life and I know I'm the love of hers as well, we both know how much we truly love each other. My son has ADHD he is on medication for about 1 year, so naturally you would he is hyperactive and hard to handle at times, but you won't find anyone with a better heart then him at this age it's noticeable. Her daughter is a happy girl and is very smart for her age. My son lives with us full time her daughter only part time and I work and she doesn't really work.
So now the issues :
The first few months she was very patient with my son, now the past 1 and a half she can't stand him. Her only communication with him is yelling, degrading or embarrassing him in front of me and everyone. She is always yelling at him for the littlest things but when her daughter does the same exact things she doesn't even raise her voice at all she babies the situation every time. I have noticed that she only cooks new meals the days she has her daughter then next few days is left overs or sandwiches. She only wants to go to the park or do any activity at all if her daughter is with us. If I ask she says she feels guilty for going without her daughter and stays home. She spends so much of my money treating her daughter (and her entire family but that's another subject) out to nice restaurants while I'm at work and leaves my son home or drops him off at my parents house but if I spend a penny in my son with my money she starts ww3 because she says he doesn't deserve new clothes because he will ruin them. I noticed and my son's mother noticed that he's changing and becoming more reserved and stays in his room and doesn't talk around my wife because she's always to ready to yell at him for anything he says it doesn't matter where we are my family or her family, out in a restaurant or in public she embarrasses him about his grades or something he did at home. It's like she hated to see him happy or smile. He's emotionally broken my entire family noticed it, he hates to be home and she goes crazy if he wants to stay over my parents house for the weekend. She always wants him home.Their so much to tell but I can't write it because I convinced myself she's trying to get better with him. Her treatment of him had his mother now fighting for custody and it's costing me my deposit to buy a house. My ex wife is driving me nuts because of the stories my son tells her.
Long story short my son is with his mom for the summer having the time of his life and barely calls me, it's killing me because he loved me more then the world itself now I barely get a text from him. After he left to his mom I was furious at my wife because she isn't changing at all with him. She thinks avoiding him and staying out of his life is trying. We argued so much I left the house a month ago and I'm renting my old apartment. My entire family wants me to leave her because she wont change, even her father who was a stepchild and was treated badly said that he is disgusted by her and said she will never change and that he doesn't blame me if I divorce her. The truth is I don't want to but I can't choose my love for her over my son's but now we have a daughter and I don't know what to do. Please help.