The Fallout of 'Winning' in Court
I'm using the word 'winning' very lightly here.
Last week, DH and I attended the RFO hearing where the judge addressed our cases with BM. She had requested spousal support, racked up bills with our lawyer by forcing a motion to compel when she refused to provide financial discovery, and DH responded by requesting a decrease in child support. We only made the request for reduced child support after it was clear that his income went down by 25% (!!) and we were persistent and didn't drop it because she has been able to conduct a much higher standard of living, including the ability to purchase a new car and a motorcycle for her fiancé (oh yeah, she was asking for spousal support but had a live-in boyfriend to whom she's engaged). Long story short, we found out about the car and the new job shortly before a court date last month, but our attorney continued the case after we didn't get the full discovery response and clearly there was more to contemplate. We also happened to find some good evidence of cohabitation, which was aided by her comments in court that the judge decided she gets 'enough' support from her fiancé staying at her home (she claimed it was only a few nights a week, and really she was just trying to pad the lie she had put forth in court by misrepresenting the nature of their relationship).
Anyways, she was denied spousal support, sanctioned for the attorney's fees, and the child support was reduced.
While it may technically have been a win, we're already worried that it will result in much worse things than paying more child support. We have been worried about that from the start of this. Today is SS6's birthday (an upgrade from SS5!), and DH was able to reach BM to talk to the boy, but I was not. A text was unanswered and a call was immediately declined.
I think this is only the beginning. I've told DH that we need to keep writing down what happens with the kids. I'm certain that parental alienation is going to increase as there's already been plenty of it. For instance, DH asked SS11 how his mother likes her new job. He replied, "She likes it, but she said that now that she's making more money, you don't want to pay her anymore." She also showed SS11 her bank account, and that it had $0.99 in it; except, well, she'd got 3 bank accounts, and one of them is for the sole purpose of exchanging money with DH. Of course there wouldn't be much in the joint account.
If she did these kinds of things *before* the outcome of the hearing, I can't imagine what her ragey, bitter attitude is going to drive in the weeks and months to come.
Has anyone else suffered the fallout of a court victory? Any wise words? We're going to be doing our best not to let the situation get out of hand, and while we don't believe she deserves more of DH's paycheck, we're going to be purchasing what we can for the kids at every opportunity.
Any thoughts or suggestions would help.