I'm not sure why I've even titled this co parenting since exH really does nothing but send the check and only communicates when he wants to tell me that he's too busy to see his children. We have 50/50 in our CO which is over 12 years old and has never been modified. CS has never been modified either but that is in motion to change. exH has not fully exercised his visitation for most of those 12 years. This year he saw the kids a whole 4 days for summer and has not seen them for a holiday in years. He has come to 2 of ds18's national meets only because his mother (ex MIL) insisted he be there to support ds and she paid full cost of airfare, room and meals. exH has money he just didn't want to spend his own money for it.

In the last month I've sent xH a total of 5 texts and they were all about the kids medical bills which he is responsible for. I've called him a total of 2x because ds20 is applying for SSI and we needed some information. ds15 does call, skype and text xH from my phone because he does not have his own phone. I've only communicated with xH when necessary and only about the kids.

Last night "he" sends me a text saying that he never wants to speak to me again, I recieved a text from him that he is blocking me from his phone. The text was hard to read and the English not quite right. He is in the process of moving in w/his gf who is from a Latin country and her English is choppy. not that it matters but I'm sure it was her who sent the text. I'm only supposed to email exh and ds15 has to call from his brother ds20's phone. ds20 works evenings now and is gone before ds15 gets home from school so this is going to be heartbreaking for ds15.

Honestly I have no desire to speak or communicate w/xH but there are times it's necessary since we have 4 children together. It hurts to see the children basically shut out from his life. He tells me that ds20 (who is learning disabled) is now and adult and needs to be independant and on his own, meaning I get all the responsiblity. I agree but the fact is that ds20 will always need a degree of help and guidance to function. exH had promised also ds22 that she could live at home and pay rent until she finished her tech program that will last 1 year. Well he told her that he's done helping her and that she needs to be independent and no longer rely on her parents. I do agree that ds22 is an adult and capable of complete independence but to promise one thing just as she is starting this program then to yank the rug is a bit abrupt. He's touting all of this independence to his own children yet moving in w/his gf who lives w/her mother!!! He'll live w/her, her mother and her 13 yr old son.

exH's new place has no room for his kids to visit or for ds15/da18 to stay for the summer (ds18 will be home during summers from college for the next 4 years). I'm just saddened that there is no real relationship w/exH and his children unless it's convenient for him. He and his family have been allowed to see them whenever they've wanted. I've always been flexible and never blocked him from them. Also I've never badmouthed him to them. So many times I just have to say, "I don't remember" if they as me things about their father.

I'm so tired of trying to facilitate a relationship between the kids and their father when it's obvious that he really doesn't care. I've never wanted to be "one of those mothers" but I'm so done. I know he'll gain interest in his kids again if/when this new relationship ends just like the times before, but I'm really done trying to co ordinate everything for him, notify him of their activities, send pics etc. Should I just stop? Stop encouraging the kids to call him, skype him at all. Stop setting up summer visits, stop reminding them to send fathers day cards, school pics etc? I've tried to be so "nice" so the kids could have a relationship w/their father but they know they're not a priority to him. I see their hurt.

Any CP's just give up in this situation? If so how did it turn out?