BF's family and bio mom Crossing all sorts of boundaries
I think some of you may remember when I posted early last year when I was pregnant with my now one year old son. I said that I was leaving his father which I did for a time but we have reconciled because he promised to change some things and I saw a real change.
However, BM and his family have now crossed the ultimate boundary. He wasn't seeing his two of his three kids from a previous marriage very much at all because his ex-wife was not abiding by the custody agreement. We are not living together at this time and I found out that his ex-wife stayed in his house with the family the other night.
She's supposedly brought the kids down to get her taxes and close out her bank account that is here. They live 2 hours away so she brought them because of that. She ended up spending the night in the house with him and the rest of his family.
Here's why I think it was planned out though he denies it. Two days before this, his mom and sister dropped off clothes at my house that I didn't ask them to and they did it on an ounce. They just texted me asking me if I was off and when I said yes they brought this huge bag of my clothes that I had left in his house back to my house. Now 2 Days Later his ex-wife is in his house. You can't tell me that wasn't planned.
He's claiming that I'm overreacting and that he doesn't want to be with her but I seriously doubt that. His sister was acting very funny and cold towards me the other day and it is unusual for her. I just put two and two together. I don't know, maybe I am overreacting but I don't think so. We got into a huge fight on the phone last night and I told him that I am tired of being disrespected by his family and by his ex-wife doing this kind of stuff and him allowing it.
I told him at that until I see some kind of real change I am not going to continue the relationship. I told him that I am sick and tired of him rolling over and doing whatever BM wants. I am tired of her interfering on our relationship and trampling all over healthy boundaries which I don't think they ever learned how to set. I understand that they need to co-parent but there is no reason for her to be texting him about everything that's happening in her life and there's absolutely no reason for her to be spending the night in his house. Like I said, he thinks I'm overreacting but I'm just tired of being expected to be a doormat.
I've had people telling me that this is just a normal part of co-parenting but I disagree. Am I wrong for being upset? One thing I forgot to mention is that his mother told me that his ex-wife will not be going back to her state until Saturday so I guess this means that she's going to be in his house all week because she has no friends or family here. Not sorry but that's not something I'm willing to put up with. He could go to a friend's house at night.
I guess there's very little that could happen with his family being around but still, there's always that chance. I just feel like I'm tired of being told that how I feel is wrong and that I'm overreacting so as I asked before, Am I Wrong to be upset? Is this just a normal part of co-parenting or is it a big huge nope like I think it is? Thanks.