2 step children, and a baby on the way
I need some advice... am I being unreasonable or selfish?
My partner has 2 children from a previous relationship. We have shared custody with their biological mother.
my partner and I are expecting at the beginning of the summer break. Their mother has said she is working all summer so when she has the kids then they'll be going to a 'after school care' type thing all day, which is run by their school. My partner (without talking to me) offered to have them all summer so they didn't have to go to after school care.
my partner and I are teachers so will have the summer off. We are expecting a baby together at the beginning of the summer holidays. I am stressed because this is my first biological child and the newborn thing is new to him to(he wasn't around the first few years with his other two). I don't think he realises how much work it's going to be. I do a lot of the cooking, cleaning, entertaining for the kids when we do have them and I know I won't have that time with a new born.
I expressed my worry to him and said that the kids Gould still go to their mums like our usual arrangement. But he insists that they can stay with us and said that they are always welcome at ours no matter the arrangement. I agree that they are always welcome but am worried about how stressed/tired/etc that I am going to be. He told me he new I would push away from them once we had a baby together. Which is not the case, I am just being realistic (or so I think).
please give me some advice?!!
Am I being unreasonable or selfish?