Worried about SD mental health
Guys, I am at a total loss here..
My SD struggles with her living situation, she really notices and feels what she is missing out on by not being at our home with us very much (usually one weekend a month, and a week or two in school holidays) but we haven't had her since March (state borders have been closed due to COVID-19)
We have always struggled with her behaviour when she is here, she has daddy issues and doesn't like having other siblings. She is nasty and manipulative towards the other children, plays my husband and I off against each other. This has now gone from just during her visits, to when she is at home too. Causing issues over the phone and social media. The household ends up in tears.
She has been calling us over video chat and yelling at us for not being available to her. Sending nasty texts to us saying how we let her down and are never there for her. She tells us she is miserable because she can't see us enough and how unfair her life is. She has said her friends don't want to be her friends anymore because they are sick of hearing about how sad and miserable she is all the time.
She honesty seems emotionally unstable, I believe she needs to see a professional, because her friends are right, it's an all the time thing. And I know that her feelings are valid, but she is so self obsorbed that she can never see what is going on with other people, never considers how her actions and behaviours effect those around her.
The issue my husband and I have, is that her mother refuses to see all of this. Her mother tells me it is just her hormones and puberty, she over thinks things blah blah. But it isn't, this child needs help, and mother refuses to see it.
The poor kid has a speech delay and intellectual issues that the mother also doesn't address.
Do I go in to bat for this kid, and try and get her some help? Or do I step back and say it's not my problem? My fear is it will either get to a point where we cut contact with my stepdaughter because none of us can do it anymore (that probably sounds dramatic, with the little information I've provided, but it's a novel to explain all that has happened over the years) or her mental health will continue to deteriorate and she will end up hurting herself.