What does “the best interest of the child” really mean?
This is so confusing to me! What's in the best interest of the child when both parents have different ideas about what that means. For instance:
the sports which is the main battle around here:
BM feels it's in the best interest of the children to play multiple sports at a time, that they play 6 days a week at least and she asks then if they want to do then and to please her they say yes.
DH feels it's too much and that one sport a season is a good amount so they have time for other activities with friends, family and to just have some time to relax. The kids have stated to him that they are tired and sore and they do not seem to really want to do so much.
So who is right? Who is to say what is in the best interest of the children here? What would a judge say?
Other examples are camps:
BM feels they should have "enrichment" every week of the summer unless they are on a family vacation. DH feels they should have a couple summer camps but also time to DJ other things they enjoy like going on a hike or visiting the lake or having friends over for sleepovers.
Mom will argue that the kids do have this and they do with HER but dad's time is completely filled with activities and he just wants to have the time to other things with his kids which will foster a relationship between them and dad and that's important too. The boys NEED their dad too.
so again. What is actually in the best interest of the children. Mom feels she is right and DH is completely wrong and that a judge will tell him he's an awful father for not "supporting the kids in all their dreams" which he DOES. But he wants the kids to have balance too.