Three skids growing up - need advice
SO has 3 kids, SS14, OSD13, YSD10. All three are relatively well behaved. We have been getting accustomed to a new summer schedule that SO got in the midst of a custody modification that allows him summer MWF 3-8pm that started end of July, along with 2nd, 4th, and 5th weekends he normally has throughout the rest of the year.
We are already aware that we are the weekend parents, but it's been difficult trying to find things for them to do. They have a few chores when they are here, but it's not much and we don't want to just put them to work while they are here. They don't bring homework or anything to work on during the regular schedule and we couldn't even put them in camp this summer. I feel like if they were to stay for a few days at a time, there wouldn't be as much pressure to have activities planned. But since it's just 5 hours at a time right now, they just sit around and rot on their screens, especially SS. So far, he's given up screen time to run around at a playground with his cousin and at the pool.
We can't expect all three to want to do the same things, but we've tried movies, board games, video games, going to the park, visiting grandma/cousins... even divide and conquer where I take two while he does one on one with the third. I'm wondering if this is just kids becoming older/teenagers, or a consequence of being the NCP. We don't have the routine of them going to school and just coming home, so I think we feel pressure of making sure they aren't bored when they're here so they won't lose interest in us.
School starts in a few days and our schedule will go back to 2nd, 4th and 5th weekends with Wednesday evenings. The skids might have a few school events for parents to attend throughout the year, but with BM and her hostile demeanor, we probably won't have much interaction with the kids if we do attend. Does anyone have any advice or experience with this? We don't want to be Disneyland parents, but we want to stay connected with the skids. Any examples of a balanced relationship with the skids?