Step Daughters need braces
My husband is 52, I am 40. He has two daugthers 21&15, my daughter is 16, and we have a son who is 2 together. My husband is not good with money and had horrible credit when I meet him and no money in the bank. I have always paid my bills ontime so my credit is good and I have been saving money putting away my child support for years. My husband has been divorced from his ex since 2003. She left him for a man with money and told him that he would not have to pay child support. Now both of his girls need braces. The only way he can get the braces is to have me place it on my credit card or open a joint carecredit card with him. He doesn't feel like he should have his ex pay for 1/2 bc he hasn't paid child support which I understand. But I don't think I should be responsible for opening the credit card or paying $8,000. Esp. bc my husband and I have been having problems getting along mostly bc of the girls and he threatens to leave. I truly think he feels guilty that he did not do better for his girls financially. The 21 year old needed a car - so I loaned her $3,000 to get the car and she paid me back every month. She is going to college, so I will pay for her class or books and expect that she pay me back which has created problems in the past when I asked for my money back. She is 21 has a part time job and only takes 1 or 2 classes each semester. I feel like she should get a full time job and take her classes at night but she won't. His 15 year old makes horrible grades. And I guess the part that bothers me is that his ex lives in a $350k house, both of his girls and the ex wear Guess and Miss Me jeans, Coach shoes, and won't take a step into Walmart. My daugther and I wear Levis. Even when I first meet my husband he had to have Express Jeans. He has toned it down since. He even asked me to give him $1,000 for his daughters graduation present, then when I signed over my 401K to my daughter as a beneficiary he asked me "what am I going to get". Recently I pulled money out of my child support savings to buy my duaghter a car $4,500 and he asked me why I made his daugther pay me back but didn't make my daugther to pay me back. There is so much to the story that I could go on and on. I tend to feel very guilty and have helped his girls and spent money on them even though their bedrooms are bigger then my living room and they don't ever seem to appreciate it so I have stopped and now my husband resents me. What are your thoughts?