Step Daughter wanting to still be the mini-wife
I have posted on here a couple times about my SD. I know im only 2 years into this marriage and many have suffered way longer but it drives me crazy at times trying to figure out whats best for me and also my husband and his daughter. After reading so much on here my SD absolutely has mini-wife syndrome. her father had a 15 year marriage to a woman that was not normal. He basically fell in love with her son and not her. She ended up preganat with his daughter ( now 18) and for years it was just her and her dad because his ex wife just wanted his money and her biils paid so they lived like roommates for years him staying to keep his daughter. She became the mini wife and called all the shots and even her step brothers and half brother hated her. My husband made her his priority. they lived this way 15 years!! he met me after the seperation and soon after we fell in love she resented her dad and went to live with her mom who hated her while she was with my husband due to her being so spoiled and above her. Her mom has used the thing the hated most about her marriage and now turned the SD against her dad for not choosing her over me... Since we married it has been a battle of daughter wanting daddy to act with her as if he always has and I put my foot down and made him quit chasing her and giving in to her and her demands. She refused to be around me at alll and I never have said or done anything to my SD but she refuses to accept the marriage and only wants her dad. She uses him just like her mom did and if it wasnt for me standing up and saying no we would be broke. He pays the max child support on her but it isnt enough they always want more. So.... He hasnt seen her in a year and a half and she refused the answwer his letters about him telling her what she needed to do in order to have a relationship. Should I give in and just let her have her dad or keep standing my ground and fighting for the marriage? i dont think this battle is anywhere near over even though she isabout to graduate this year. I think she will only have a realtionship with him if he excludes me and gives her what she wants and allows her to use him. i know it hurts him she has turned and I hurt cause i just want my marriage.