Started disliking my husband’s kids/ how to deal with kids’ mom
I never wanted kids myself, didn't want to be a stepmom either, my husband always said you're free to do whatever you want, but he has to be a parent. We've been living together for a year now and somewhere along the way I started disliking his children. They are 8 and 6 now, boy and girl, they fight, they are spoiled and they don't listen. I don't have patience and I don't like to repeat myself 5,000 times. But main reason is the kids' mom. It's really bothering me that she keeps crossing lines. She treats my husband as her bff, tells him about her love life ect. He told her to stop, but she does not respect boundries. He keeps replying to her nonsense, which is pissing me off. He says if he does not respond it would escalate and he just wants to keep the peace, but how is it my fault that she would cause drama if he ignores her non kids related messages. It feels like I can never win, as she always has the trump card: if you don't do as I say, I'm taking away the kids.