SS taking photos of new baby to take home to BM?
Hi all, this is way ahead of time as DH & I have just started trying for our first baby but SS stresses me so much that I'm already worrying about something ... and I hope you ladies already having kids of your own may have some answers.
SS is now turning 11 and is starting to take photos on his ipod which is from his BMs house so it goes back home with him. He visits about every 4th -6th weekend. Currently photos are of him or outdoors, but I'm thinking he may want to take photos of a future dd or ds (really hoping for dd as dh 'been there, done that' with ss - but that's a whole other story on it's own).
BM lives 3 hours away and I have 0 contact with her and DH has minimal contact with her focused on drop off/pick up times. She's a stranger to me who makes tries to make life difficult as much as she can-i.e. she's the reason SS doesn't come over more often as she'll make up an excuse last minute of shy she can't bring him to meet DH when she knows there are fun plans for him. I'm hardly around unless there's a planned activity when SS comes and DH & I can hardly say a word around him as we know he repeats everything back to BM like a little parrot. Not his fault so there's nothing to say about that, it is what it is.
So, how do I prevent SS from taking photos of future dd/ds to take home to BM? How have any of you handled this? It's creepy and eerie to think of this stranger who if it hadn't been for 1 'oops' wouldn't be around and only means my family harm, perusing photos of something as precious as a baby. She always wants to know everything about me - i know since ss tells us, he's very candid.
Help! I know I need to approach the subject carefully with DH when the time comes, any info/suggestions welcome.
*Tried posting this yesterday but I don't think it worked ... just in case you see it twice*