Problems with stepkids
My husband and I have been married for 6 years, he has two children ages 9 and 13. We got custody of his kids 2 years ago at my urging because I noticed very early on they had problems. Their mother has serious mental issues that I won’t detail because I would have to right a book about it, but to put it short and sweet sshe is a pathological liar and drug addict and her husband is abusive.
I was hoping we could help his children by getting custody but all it has done is cause serious problems in our marriage. His children have done everything they can to interfere in our relationship and my husband has done nothing to stop it. He caters to and coddles them beyond belief. My sd who is 9 is extremely jealous of our relationship as is his son. They ignore me talk only to him and constantly interrupt when he or my children are talking to him. My list could go on and on with their constant manipulation of their father.
The most recent issue involves my ss(13 year old), my son who is 12 and him were playing along with two of their friends, My ss was chasing one of the friends and trying to hit him, so my son threw a plastic ball at him, ss pushed my son into wall then went to his room, thought that was the end of it until two days later I find out he had urinated into 3 shampoo bottles to get back at my son for throwing the ball(they share a bathroom) and he also broke the screen of the friends cellphone because of the incident. My ss admitted doing these things and said he wasn’t sorry for it and didn’t care that he got caught, no remorse whatsoever. This isn’t the first incident with my ss and probably wont be the last. The problem is my husband has his head in the sand when it comes to his children. He thinks this most recent incident was just typical teenage behavior. Am I overreacting by thinking this was not normal behavior??