Parental alienation-did you tell the kids?
I wrote in another post how DH ended up telling the kids yesterday about their mom and she had been lying to them telling them DH doesn't want to see them, how she tells DH they don't want to see him, he told them about the false allegations and everything else. He told them how every time theg go home and tell her things that she uses it as a way to abuse him, lying about what was said ect.. basically she's been lying for years to them, DH, the courts, the therapists and he saw his kids slipping away from them so he was like the hell with it! I have nothing to lose at this point and he told them. Everything we have heard and read about says not to tell the kids and put them in the middle by what was he suppose to do? Just keep telling her lie?? And since she was getting away with it the lies were getting more elaborate. When he heard his son talking exactly like his mother, he just couldn't let it keep going. We have tried everything else. The kids cried and told him they were so sorry but of course DH feels awful. He told them he does want them to love their mom and have a good relationship with her biutbthst he loves them too much to let it continue. The whole thing was heartbreaking.
We don't know where to go from here. We have no idea when or if they are going to tell her this. She won't agree to therapy and DH is just crushed. He didn't want to do this but he was losing his kids to alienation and he figured at least this way they will know dad tried everything. Had anyone done this? Did it help of hurt?? Oh the kids are tween/teenagers. This is not going kids.