My bf I feel consumes my life and while I love him, I don't know how to tell him that his kids overwhelm me. I feel like a babysitter/maid in my own house. He has three kids and I am a widow with a 3 year old son. It has now become a norm for his kids to always be at my house when it is his weekend. This wasn't ever really discussed with me if this was okay....it just sort of happened one weekend and now it is my life every other weekend. I love his kids but they are overwhelming and make me feel on edge the whole time they are here. I cook all the meals mostly and I clean up their messes and my bf stays here all the time with his dog. He is broke with child support and he is a diabetic with a high deductible so his medical costs are thru the roof. I basically feed him and his children and dog and wash all of his clothes and theirs. He does have his own house but has resorted to staying with me when I announced it was too hard for me to go to his house with my son since he doesn't have a bed there and I was living out of a suitcase where he has clothes here and it is just easier. But I never told him he had to stay here all the time. He could go home and take his dog and I would be okay with that. I love him....love him more than I probably loved my late husband but I resent him. I cook during the week when I would much rather play with my kid and order some pizza but now I'm feeding another person and dog and I can't eat out as often as I'd like bc it costs me more but now I feel I am paying the price bc I don't get to spend as much time with my kid. There is so much more to this but I need help please!