OMG! Fiancee may NOT BE baby daddy!!!!
Since we are a blended family, I figured i'd post this here, wasn't really sure where it belonged but here goes:
From very early on in my relationship with my fiancee, based on info from his family, info about druggy bio mom, etc. I have suspected that he may NOT actually be bio-dad. However, he's convinced and has been from day one that ss8 is his bio son. Ok great....8 years go by.....ss8 has Autism, and with that, his neurologist ran a battery of DNA/Chromosome type labs, and a brain scan MRI. Apparently kids with Autism often report other genetic diseases, so they were looking for all kinds of genetic stuff. Turns out, ss8 has the trait for what's called 'autosomal dominant polycystic kidney disease'. Autosomal dominant means that it is passed down from a parent. If you were to google this disease, which i've done and read info from about every website I could find on the topic, you'll see that you pretty much get this disease from one of your bio parents. It's something that runs in families, and if you have PKD, you have a 50% chance of passing it on to your offspring. My FIANCEE has zero family history of any type of kidney disease, so the chances of him having it are about zero. I just contacted bio mom, who also told us that SHE has NO HISTORY of kidney disease in her family!!!!
See where i'm going with this? This is a GENETIC disease that runs in and is passed down through families. How can bio mom and supposed bio dad NOT have it?????? 90% of cases of this disease are passed down. There is a small percentage 10% or less, people who do not have a bio parent who has the disease, and it just somehow spontaneously mutates the gene on it's own. BUT, very rare!
We are waiting for a call from the children's hospital genetics dept. and also from the nephrology dept. and will see what happens. Obviously my fear is that bio mom and fiancee get checked, and neither has it, and genetics suggests to him that maybe he aint the daddy!!!! OR WORSE, they run paternity and TELL HIM he is in fact NOT the kid's father!!!!
Am I awful for wanting to know the TRUTH about his paternity of this child? Cuz I really wanna know if he's been duped by bio mom all these years???