New and overwhelmed
I am fairly newly married (less than 2 years) and have two step-children and had a baby recently with my husband. For the most part all is well but my husbands ex has some serious legal trouble pending and my husband had historically set very poor boundaries with his ex. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed and want to just leave but I can't because of my daughter. The hardest part is that BM and I are so different (eg the fact that she is facing serious federal charges is nuts to me) but she is the kids mom so I have to sit on my hands about my real feelings about the situaion. Any pearls of wisdom from anyone? Most days I am fine but some I think I can't do it and I feel stuck. My husband feel that it is easier to just do what she wants to keep the peace but she is sort of a bully. I have tried to explain that people without boundaries don't like when people impose them. I think you can successfully co parent and maintain respectful boundaries. She is the type that if she does not get her way (despite a reasonable explanation) she will take you to the mat (court). Just feel so frustrated sometimes that we are ruled, at times, by a bully who is in serious legal hot water- like the kind of poor decision making that we would never face and we have to just let her get her way bc she is a bully!?