New and confused
I'm new to this and I have read several books and I feel like my situation is a little different. If someone could give me book ideas that I can relate to that would be great.
I have 2 kids ages 18 and 7. Mainly concerned with my 7 year old as my 18 year old is at college. My 7 year old bio father has not been in the picture for over 4 years due to abuse issues so I have 100% custody.
Our families get along very well. My fiancé is a good man and he really is trying as am I. We both want to be fair and do what's right for our family. It's been hard on My fiancé cause he has 50/50 custody with his ex of his son who is 10 years old. He has always been the active parent. His ex and him have a good relationship and she is a good mom.
My issue is that I feel like my daughter and myself are put on hold for 50% of the time when his son is with his mother. We can't even order pizza without waiting for his son. He is always saying let's wait for my son to make lasagna, to go see a movie etc.
Now what about small vacations like weekends at the lake or beach? Or even a week? Is it unreasonable for me to think of taking a vacation when my fiancé son is with his mom on vacation? Or course big vacations like going away on a plane to visit somewhere I would insist on my fiancé son to go. But a week or weekend trip to the lake I wouldn't see as such a big deal especially if his son is a a big vacation which requires a plane when he is with his mom.
Last year my fiancé took his son and meet his mom at her lake house and they stayed there for a week without my daughter. I was working and my daughter was being moved from sitter to sitter watching her. He never asked to take my daughter even for a night up there. It bothered me a little bit but I understood it as a good bonding moment between him and his son.
Any advice would be great.