Needing Guidance and Advice
I found this little community after googling with no luck.
My situation is as follows- I have been married for 4 years. I have been caring for my husbands daughter who is now 7 1/2. My husband got full custody after being contacted by his ex mother in law about his ex wife's drug use, she was arrested shortly thereafter for drug abuse and domestic assault. When I started dating my husband, his exwife was completely non-existent. His ex-MIL provided much of the full-time care to our daughter prior to him getting awarded custody(ex wife had 4 hours supervised visitation a month that she infrequently utilized). His exMIL always described her daughter as being "ruined" by my husband but encouraged them to take "family" vacations on her dime in attempt to get them back together. My husband and I started dating and we knew from the first date that we were going to be together forever. We got married and I got pregnant shortly after that. Following that his ex-wife immediately moved down the street from us and my life has been a living hell ever since. One example, not even the worst, She has emailed everyone in my church calling myself and my husband pedophiles, accusing us of hideous things. We have spent about $60,000 in the last 2 years just fighting to keep custody. We refused a week on/ week off visitation because of her extensive drug history. My husband and I were both in school full time, we got NO financial help from our families. We sold everything that wasn't nailed down. My husband and I had to both work 2 jobs on top of going to school full-time just to pay our attorney. We have all seen numerous specialists and every report has stated that out home is clearly more stable and safe. She continues. We have felt with CPS 7 times in two years. It's ridiculous. We don't provoke her. I have tried to have coffee with her. She has even gone to my daughters school and said awful things. I'm honestly too embarrassed to even participate in school activities. She calls my children, my husband and I have 2 children together and I'm currently pregnant with our third, "special needs".
I really hope someone is still reading at this point. The straw that broke the camels back is when she took my stepdaughter so our local(very small) police station. She accused my husband and of maliciously trying to chase and run her down in a restaurant parking lot... That was located right across the from the police station... The policeman reused to take a report because he told her he didn't see the incident and he had been sitting outside apparently. The only reason I found out about this is because after picking up my stepdaughter, she told me a "secret" that her an her mom were planning to make "her dad rot in jail"
So ummm I called the police station spoke with the officer who basically told me she was exaggerating....
-yes my stepdaughter is in counseling(as much as we can afford)
I am really worried because my husband and I have worked so hard, all it takes is one allegation and it could all be over. I am frustrated too and so is my husband. We have had a lot of difficult times and we are blessed through our strength. But my husband is starting to lean towards wanting to terminate his rights. These people won't stop.
She has called my employer(I
She has called my employer(I am pediatric nurse) asking them to closely monitor me because of my "numerous attempts to kill my stepdaughter"
I could go on and on.
Time to destroy BM for her
Time to destroy BM for her criminal behavior in trying to defame you. I would own her ass and every penny she will ever earn for the defamation campaign she has perpetrated against you. I would have her living under an overpass in a card board box as a consequence for her actions. If SD wants to worship a homeless bag lady convict then so be it.
Record her phone calls. Get mobile phones that she does not have the numbers to and keep the numbers she knows to record her shit and let her build her own coffin.
Own her ass. I would.
Good luck.
sooo much easier said than
sooo much easier said than done my friend.
No, it is not easy. However,
No, it is not easy. However, it is definitely doable. It takes time, constant preparation, and significant investment but it is doable.
IMHO the key is to get good at it and most of all .... enjoy it. }:) Barring idiot ass can be one of the most rewarding hobbies out there. I sure enjoyed it and now enjoy my Skids stories of the antics of the idiot Sperm Clan that he has taken the mantle of defending himself against.
Just.His.Wife. OP should
Just.His.Wife.
OP should check out her blogs.
Agree with Rags. And surely,
Agree with Rags. And surely, after all she's put you through, you could get a restraining order? It may not stop her, but if you keep filing against her when she breaches it, it'll all add up.