Need help with making sure we put everything we need in email
Ok so back story is BM signs the kids up for all sorts of stuff without talking it over with DH. She does not think his family is important and she feels DH's attention should only be on their children (she has stated this many times) so she has had lots of tricks up her sleeve but the one that has worked the best in her favor is signing the kids up for multiple sports that takes up all DH's time with the kids as well as on her time as they have games he must attend or she tells the kids he doesn't care and doesn't support them. The kids are exhausted, burnt out, getting sick all the time, sore and having issues at school no to mention this is not workable at our home because DH is gone all the time and the kids do not have anytime at our house to take care of their responsibilities here like their pets or making their beds....nothing! They come here, sleep, get up the next morning and gone all day then back here, they make a mess and don't pick anything up because they are too tired from playing sports all day. They wanted animals that I have to end up taking care of because they have no time to tend to them and this is every weekend they are with us. It's not okay. Not only that but we never have time to anything we want to do as a family. We wanted to take all the kids apple picking but couldn't because of sports. Things like that. It's just not working in any aspect. We still want to support them in their sports but DH and I talked and he said he would like to agree to one sport per season. He feels that is enough and that it's better for everyone. Especially the kids. She also signed the oldest up for two weeks of overnight summer camp without discussing it with him and it's over his custody time AND Father's Day. They never agreed to this either but DH has agreed to one week every summer so he wants to only agree to one as well because again, it's a LOT of custody time he would be missing, we had plans already but she planned over it without talking to him and he pays 100% of everything as well as a huge amount of child support. The camp alone would be 2K and that's just not reasonable.
So, he wants to email her with the information he wants to relay to her as far as his decision on camp, sports and also Thanksgiving as it's his year to choose which 1/2 of the week he wants.
So, should he just say "this is my decision" and leave it at that? Should he explain his points behind his decisions? And if so what should he write to get it ALL out in one email so there's no follow up questions? She WILL have a complete fit when she hears this because she feels she can do whatever she wants even though they both have legal custody because she is their mother and she feels she is the real parent. There should be zero decision making without the other parents consent. He has never once done that and she does it constantly! So any tips would be appreciated.