Need advice! Going crazy!
I will try to make this short. My husband and I were together when we were in high school. We separated for 10 years and got back together 2 years ago and got married. I have kids with another man that I was with for those 10 years. He also has a child. We now have a child together.
I have serious issues with the fact that he he a child. I think it's because the BM lied from day 1. She told him she couldn't have kids, and she was married to someone else. They hooked up one time. Yes, I know my husband should have used protection, so no need to point that out. I am so angry and bitter about this child.
I am angry that she did that to him and that it will effect our lives now forever. He never even wanted kids. He loves the child and my kids, but he's not a very attentive father. In fact, my mother in law was the one to raise this child because my husband loved with her at the time. To this day, my MIL feels that this child is hers. My husband is wishy washy when the child is here at our home. My husband says all the right things but his behavior doesn't match his words. He seems annoyed by the child. The child is 7 and can't tie his shoes, button his pants, or even wipe himself after a BM. He is a whiny baby and no doubt the product of BM and MIL.
I don't know what to do to calm these feelings. The BM is nice to my face but stalks and starts crap with me on Facebook. She has even decided to co parent now with my MIL and not my husband and myself. She will send texts and pictures to MIL but not my husband. My MIL was so concerned about not seeing my SS after the birth of our child, that she decided to befriend her after 6 years of drama and BS.
I can't stand this girl and highly resent the fact that my husband is stuck dealing with her forever. She's such a nasty person. I don't know how she can expect him to be Father of the Year when he never even wanted the child. He also has resentment, but nowhere near the amount I do.
Anyway, I don't talk to my MIL anymore and she rarely sees my baby. I feel betrayed by her because she chose the other child over mine when she did that. Why wait until we get married to friend the BM?? I am ready to get a divorce and move on. I am sick of the child, BM, and the MIL.