I am really glad to have found this website. It provides great information and resources with being a step parent.
I am a step mother to a 4 year old boy who has been dumped on his dad by his mother when she realized she could no longer take care of him. She is not involved in the boy’s life other than calling one several times per month. The kid was 2 when he came to live with his dad. Mother does not provide anything and doesn’t help in any way raising this child. My husband, his parents and I carry all the responsibility. Actually, my husband and I. The grandparents have him every 2 weeks when they go to a function or a game. Grandma feels sorry for the child because his mom is not in his life and because of that spoils him rotten.
When my husband is at work, I take care of the child: feed, bathe, wash clothes, take to the park, read stories, play with…
However, sometimes I feel like I am just a babysitter and have a hard time with that. My mother-in-law keeps saying that the child is messed up because he is not with his mother. But I think that as long as he is in a stable and loving household, he is able to overcome the fact that his mother is not in his life. My mother-in-lawn also feels the need to step into the role of the child’s mother saying that the kid doesn’t have any discipline and shows lack of cognitive abilities. He has a hard time following directions, but than what child his age doesn’t.
Anyway, I am starting to build up some resentment toward this whole situation and don’t want that to happen.
What can I do to get rid of that resentment?
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.