My kids his kids
We fight over everything, literally.... I have a 15 yr old girl and 9 year old boy... He has 14 year old girl and 9 year old boy. I adore his son, he's a lottle whiney, lazy, won't eat .....anything.... But he's not bad, he is sweet and he listens... Sort of. But his daughter is lazy, manipulative, defiant, greedy.... SO and I fight every time I bring anything up... I'm all about respect, you do your chores, you listen, you don't talk back... I'm pretty harsh but I am raising you to learn not coddling you so you live with me for life.
Because he had to fight for custody his daughter was angry when she was ripped from her dysfunctional home... My SO has been kissing her ass since... She miles and whines and he falls for it, she HAS TO GO everywhere with him... Because he spoils her... Not the other3 kids...
So we are constantly fighting over our kids... If I complain that his daughter doesn't doing her chore well, he starts pointing out that my daughter is lacking... If I get on his son for whining... He points out that my son probably started it... He tells me that my son is a bully, that he is mean and hurts his son on purpose... I'm at a loss... My sons father died in 2016 and is jealous of his kid... In not gonna lie I'm SUPER jealous of the attention his daughter gets... We cannot communicate without getting angry and defensive... He talks about my kids to get under my skin, or because he is defensive about me getting on his daughter... I need support... I need to learn how to keep my mouth shut... But Grrrr I get so defensive!!