My husband talks mean to my children
I have 2 daughters ages 23 and 18 from my first marriage. I have been with my current husband for 15 years and we have an 18 month old daughter together.
My husband has 3 grown children, only the youngest lived with us but is now in his own. His 2 oldest daughters have not adjusted well to our relationship. Did not attend our wedding and basically have tried to exclude me from as much as possible over the years.
I truly felt once I had our daughter together it would bring the family closer but I was so wrong.
It seemed as though things were improving but then they didn't attend the baby shower for their sister. That struck me hard. To top it all off they claimed they were never invited. My best friend put the shower on for me and so I know she invited them and I got confirmation of their invite from my husband's sister. They still deny that lie.
Things came to a final boiling point when my husband paid for a trip for my 2 oldest girls and his girls to go and see a concert together. We paid for flights, hotel, shopping etc. Once home , my kids said that most of What they heard was how awful their Dad was to their mom, that he was a bad father and on and on. This is not the first time this has happened and I really had hoped their would be no bashing and they could just enjoy themselves.
I called them both out on this, they yelled and called me names in front of the baby and left. That was over a year ago.
Since then, my marriage has slowly been falling apart. My husband was very upset with his kids (first time ever). They have been spiteful and so mean. He's been left out of his granddaughters life and treated like a dog.
I feel responsible. I invited them to his birthday party and they showed up. A very rare occurrence.
My hubby is resentful towards me and my kids since all this happened. He tells my kids and me that we have no respect , don't care about him and last night grabbed my oldest daughters arm and told her to F*** off.
I feel it's the end of the road for us as I cannot accept this treatment towards my kids for NO reason.
Is he taking the frustration he had with his kids out on us?!