My dh talks to his exwife way too much.
My boyfriend who has an 8 year old daughter with is exwife talks to her about silly issues. It's a long story but last january, after 4 years together his ex called me and told me they were sleeping together the entire time (he says its a lie and it only happened the first year but I dont know who to believe) I took him back under one condition, he would only talk to his ex wife when it came to matters concerning the daughter. Now she has come up with every reason why everything they talk about has to do with his daughter. Im not stupid. So I stepped it up and said no talking to her unless it's an emergency. Forgetting soccer socks is not an emergency. School pictures and who pays for them is not an emergency. Seeing what she got on her test at school is not an emergency. Telling her about my new job had nothing to do with their kid but in their mind it does. I dont mind that she talks to her daughter, who is 8, about school, soccer and homework but I dont like her talking to him. She is very manipulative and can spin her way into talking to him over the stupidest things.
Am I asking for too much? He told me he couldnt give that up and was willing to break up with me over it. He said I am being difficult and dont understand. He told me he wants to marry me but I need to get over this. Am I crazy? To make it worse, his parents talk to her all the time including having pictures of the former family all over the house. His parents like me but as soon as I said something about not talking to her I became the bad guy.