My boyfriend’s daughter is a thief
Hi Guys! I need some help. For the past two and one half years I have been dating a man with two children that he is helping to raise. I phrase it this way because the two girls (ages 5 and 10) are not biologically his, but he has committed to helping his ex raise them because their fathers are absentee. He is extremely involved in their lives. I myself, have a 12 year old son.
Recently, we found out that his ten year old stole my sons AirPods 2 months ago. During this time, my 12 year old had saved his allowance to purchase a new pair. This is not the first time this child has stolen. In fact, upon entering the relationship he warned me that she had "sticky fingers". Since finding out that she had stolen the AirPods and had them for quite some time, him nor her mother, have done much about the situation. She was "punished" with losing her iPhone for only two days. I requested that the parents replace my sons money because he worked hard to replace AirPods that he thought he lost, but were really just stolen from him.
A month has passed and they have still not replaced his money, nor have they made her apologize. I am beyond upset as this is not the first time she has stolen from me. In fact, it is the third. She has not been back to my home because I feel so violated. Also, I am not quite over the situation and the fact that the parents have done nothing to correct her behavior. I even offered to allow her to do chores and small odd jobs to work off her debt. My thought process would be that we could teach her to earn the things that she wants. I even was ok with giving her the used AirPods back after her working off the money to show her that we can have whatever we want with the right work ethic. I have gotten nothing but crickets from the parents.
We were planning a trip to Disney for my sons national basketball Championship, but I have recently expressed to my boyfriend that I do not believe the ten year old should be allowed to go since they are not actively trying to correct her behavior. My boyfriend is angry and thinks that I am being too harsh. He also no longer wants to go.
Is this an issue worth breaking up over? We have been talking heavily about marriage, but I can't see how we can get past the fact that they won't help the child and I refuse to continue to be a victim to her ways. She needs help and I feel as if the are neglecting her.