Living Apart to Stay Together
After 4 years, DH and myself are making the difficult decision to live in separate houses due to our blend just not blending. He has 4 kids - all teens. I have a special needs son, 8. Our physical home does not have an ideal layout for our blend. He let his his kids choose their rooms and we have issues with different schedules and noise. His kids are night owls/sleep in past noon and 2 are remote learning. Mine is an early riser, attends in person school, has difficulty sleeping/staying asleep/falling asleep, has sensory issues, and behavioral issues. He's on medication, but is often loud or argumentative. DH and I have argued a lot over family issues. He and my son butt heads while I butt heads with his two middle teens.
Has anyone done the two households thing and have any tips or tricks to make it work. I'm sad, terrified, hopeful all at the same time. I'm looking forward to a home where I'm not a servant to 4 messy, inconsiderate teens and I'm sure he's looking forward to a home without an overly sensitive, loud, argumentative grade schooler.